Ideal age of marriage in USA

Ideal age of marriage 

“By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher”. This light-mood quotation of Socrates holds some weight when we observe matrimonial aspect of our society. Anyhow, when we ponder with a more sober contemplation we get to know that marriage is an ancient institution of human society. When man learned to live a more social life he felt the need of such a family system in which there should be a well defined limitations and regulations of each member of the family especially of man and woman; that resulted into a social system that was called ‘marriage’. In ancient Greek era and even in the age before the dawn of the Saviour of the mankind, Holy Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w), there was the custom of polygamy; but Islam by bestowing more rights to women abolished this system and now in modern epoch almost everywhere the system of monogamy prevails. This is the basic pillar of all the human relations in the society and without this very institution no society can smoothly run on the way of evolution peacefully. "

Ideal age of marriage

Now the question arises as what should be the" ideal age of marriage of male and female? In my view of point the ideal age for a male is 28 years while for female is 25 years. To prove my claim I can argue with sound reasons separately for male and female. For male it is an ideal age to get married as firstly, one mostly and usually get the maximum masters level of education of any discipline by the age of" 22 to 23 years "approximately if he is living in an environment where he is able to get education. And after the completion of masters level education he has 5 to 6 years to get a reasonable job or to get more professional experience and saving (monetarily) if he gets it more earlier; and if he is not getting education, he by approaching at this age may be a well skilled person in the field he has been doing professional work. Secondly, (this is true for both male and female) he is, by this age, a matured person who has observed the norms, trends, behaviours, reactions of the outer world as well as of the families he has been in touch with. Thirdly, especially for the females if they don’t get married by this age, medically they may face many problems including menstrual, productivity and other health hazards."

Increasing rate of divorces.

Now another important and grave issue regarding marriages is the increasing rate of divorces. This escalating rate has its reasons and factors as well. Firstly, not keeping in mind the mental, academic, social and financial level and status of a certain male and female who are going to lead their whole life together when their wedding is being settled by their elders. It is often seen that if one of the spouse has higher mental or academic or social status; he or she begins to nurture this thought (intentionally or unintentionally) that his or her spouse is a no match for her or him; or the other becomes the victim of inferiority complex and as a result he or she commences to react negatively and consequently the equilibrium of the wedlock contract gets disturbs resulting into separation. Secondly, the marriages at early ages are mostly a failure simply cause of the immaturity and inexperience of practical life of both the husband and wife due to which they are not able to handle the day to day and as well more somber matters of the life with appropriate rationale. Thirdly, the medically unfit male or female for the continuity of the race (despite of the fact that it is not a crime to be infertile neither it is not mandatory for a continued-marriage to be with a child). Fifthly, the undue interference from the elders of husband or wife into their private matters and disputes which they themselves can settle.

How we can overcome?

Now if we come to such measures as to diminish this menace, if would suggest firstly to get your children well educated at least up to graduation level so that they may become a good husband or wife in the future. Secondly, it is the moral duty of the parents to train their offspring in such a manner that they may learn moral and ethical norms and may implement these in their practical life. Train them to be more cooperative, compromising, forgiving, broad minded and affectionate in nature. Thirdly, at the time of settling the marriages, keep in mind the balance in the mental, academic, social and financial level of the boy and girl and their families. Fourthly, getting the boy and girl medically check up before their marriage (esp. in the case of cousin-marriage as the chances of abnormal children are more in these cases).